The Bucket Lady | 10 Holiday Bucket Fillers

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This time of the year is a good time to stop, drop, and reflect on what the year has meant to us and where we’re going from here. There’s a lot to be greatful for.

Here’s just 10 things to ponder…..

The Bucket Lady’s Top 10 Holiday Vibes

Take time for silence and solitude. Be alone and embrace the silence and alone-ness. In the middle of the hustle and bustle of the holidays, take a few moments to just be.

It is more blessed to give than to receive. Do you remember how much fun it was opening Santa gifts from under the tree. Some families cannot do that. If you have the time and the extra money, make Christmas for another boy or girl. You may have fun remembering what is was like to wonder the aisles as a kid and look for what toys you wanted on your list to Santa.

Take time to reflect on all the good things you have accomplished this year. Whether it was a new job, losing some weight, running a 5k, walking a mile or learning something new, relish in the fact you accomplished a task this year.

When family members disappoint you (and they will) remember they are human too. They have their fault just like you do. Give them some grace. (Grace comes from Latin gratus, which is favor, kindness esteem or pleasing.)

Also, slow down and do one item at a time instead of multitasking. Ask for help from others as needed. Let the grocery store make the pie, or stuffing or even the whole meal.

If you do not have family in the area, get together with friends. If that is not an option, go serve food to those in homeless shelters. Giving of yourself helps defeat depression.

Meditate, read, or listen to good music or books for tape to encourage yourself.

Do your favorite activity. Take a walk, photography, writing in a journal, playing sports outside, playing with children, grandchildren, family members. Playing games with the family.

“Don’t sweat the little stuff, and it is all little stuff.” Pick and choose what you get upset over, remember you control your emotions. A mantra to use is “will this matter next year?” or “will this matter 3 years or 5 years from now?” Chances are you won’t remember anything from last year.

Remember the reason for the season. It is to be enjoyed and relished.

Kathleen Mills

Kathleen is a creative and gifted therapist who has extensive experience in helping children, adolescents, and adults with a variety of issues.